Woman ‘Mrs Toyin Bello’ seeks dissolution of 16 year-old marriage due to 10 years of sex starvation.
A fish trader, Mrs Toyin Bello, has petitioned a Customary Court in Ibadan to dissolve her 16-year-old marriage to her husband, Dotun Bello over allegations of 10 years of sex starvation, lack of productivity, and irresponsibility.
Toyin told the court on Tuesday, December 15, that she compromised her Christianity to conceive for another man to shield her husband from ridicule when she found out he couldn’t impregnate her any more. She said that about six years after the death of child she had for Bello, he refused to make sexual advances to her and she became worried.
“Then, I started running from pillar to post; seeking spiritual and other available solutions towards getting pregnant for him.
“Dotun himself went to the hospital, but he never showed me the result of the test conducted on him in spite of my numerous demands.
“When Dotun was not at home one day, I saw the result where he hid it and it read: ‘unproductive due to low count discharge’.
“With age not on my side any longer, I did the needful by secretly getting pregnant for another man so as to make him happy.
“Immediately after delivery, Dotun started misbehaving as he became grossly irresponsible and hostile to me and to the child.
“In fact, for the past 10 years now, he hasn’t slept on the same bed with me let alone touch me and I’m already feeling the trauma.
“Despite Dotun’s disaffection and irresponsibility to me, he is also taking steps to kill me so as to inherit my house and claim the child that doesn’t belong to him.
“That is the reason why I have fled home to start sleeping in our church at Asi area in Ibadan.
“My lord, I cannot continue to waste my time with Dotun; age is no longer on my side; please dissolve our union,’’ Toyin cried.
The man, Bello, counterd the lawsuit, asking the court to help pacify his wife because she was a rare gem .
He accepted he once had a low count discharge, but he quickly pointed out that he had since taken care of himself.
“My lord, Toyin denied me my conjugal rite most of the times, usually complaining that she was tired havinh worked all through the day. “In fact, there was a particular night I broke the door into her bedroom, but she was shouting that I wanted to rape her.
“The only mistake I made was that I didn’t report the incident to her relatives,’’ he stated.
In his ruling, the Court President, Chief Henry Agbaje adjourned the case to Dec. 29 for the continuation of the hearing, and asked the couple to come with more evidence to substantiate their claims .